Proverbs 17:6 (New International Version)
Children's children are a crown to the aged,
and parents are the pride of their children
Stuck in
between generations, I am a father and a son, it has taken me a lifetime to
understand just what that means.
As a parent,
you are so caught up in your life, work, and spouse; sometimes children may
feel left out. You make decisions for them, set rules for them and provide
reward and punishment like some omnipotent being. Most parents are concerned
with the well-being of their child but sometimes fall short of listening to
what they really need, because they are doing what's right or best in their
mind. Taking time to talk to the child, understand their feelings and what
makes them tick can be both rewarding and terrifying at times.
As a child,
you learn to follow a schedule, do what your parents tell you to do and go to
school to learn most everything else. Sometimes you don't understand why you
are supposed to do things, like go to bed when you are not tired, avoid certain
situations, or be educated in things you have no interest in.
This is where
life gets interesting. It has been called many things: the generation gap, a
communication void, a discipline issue, most of the time it is just the way
life is.
Understanding
the choices your parents make for you can be some of the hardest things to
comprehend. Especially when you have peers being given just the opposite things
as you. The world of electronics, cars, and even education have been a
challenge for many parents as they decide whether you should have a cell phone
and at what age, can they afford to buy you a car and then who pays for gas or
insurance you or them? What college do you go to, and who pays the cost?
As a parent, I
feel for the child when I see kids who have things my children do not, but life
isn't always fair. I also see many children that do not even have the things
that my children have, who should feel sorry for them?
The best thing
to do as a parent is to give them what you can. Show you love them with hugs.
Tell them you love them with words. And most of all spend time with them. Even
if it just means sitting in a quiet room and talking about the day’s events.
The best thing
to do as a child is to know that your parents love you. They may not always
show it in the way that you would like, but they do. They wants what's best for
you. When they yell or seem mad, it may be that your mom or dad is more
frustrated that they can't do or make things the perfect world they want you to
have. Then, it is not always a perfect world.
I love my
children and I love my parent's just the way they are.
and parents are the pride of their children
Stuck in
between generations, I am a father and a son, it has taken me a lifetime to
understand just what that means.
As a parent,
you are so caught up in your life, work, and spouse; sometimes children may
feel left out. You make decisions for them, set rules for them and provide
reward and punishment like some omnipotent being. Most parents are concerned
with the well-being of their child but sometimes fall short of listening to
what they really need, because they are doing what's right or best in their
mind. Taking time to talk to the child, understand their feelings and what
makes them tick can be both rewarding and terrifying at times.
As a child,
you learn to follow a schedule, do what your parents tell you to do and go to
school to learn most everything else. Sometimes you don't understand why you
are supposed to do things, like go to bed when you are not tired, avoid certain
situations, or be educated in things you have no interest in.
This is where
life gets interesting. It has been called many things: the generation gap, a
communication void, a discipline issue, most of the time it is just the way
life is.
Understanding
the choices your parents make for you can be some of the hardest things to
comprehend. Especially when you have peers being given just the opposite things
as you. The world of electronics, cars, and even education have been a
challenge for many parents as they decide whether you should have a cell phone
and at what age, can they afford to buy you a car and then who pays for gas or
insurance you or them? What college do you go to, and who pays the cost?
As a parent, I
feel for the child when I see kids who have things my children do not, but life
isn't always fair. I also see many children that do not even have the things
that my children have, who should feel sorry for them?
The best thing
to do as a parent is to give them what you can. Show you love them with hugs.
Tell them you love them with words. And most of all spend time with them. Even
if it just means sitting in a quiet room and talking about the day’s events.
The best thing
to do as a child is to know that your parents love you. They may not always
show it in the way that you would like, but they do. They wants what's best for
you. When they yell or seem mad, it may be that your mom or dad is more
frustrated that they can't do or make things the perfect world they want you to
have. Then, it is not always a perfect world.
I love my
children and I love my parent's just the way they are.
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